The Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy defines friendship as being a distinctive personal relationship that is grounded in a concern on the part of each friend and for the welfare of the other. I feel it is a give and take type of relationship. Or so I thought. Sometimes I wonder if friendship is supposed to be so difficult.
We are a tightly knitted group of friends. We were friends in school, there were some issues, our friendship broke up and after school we renewed our friendship vows. Good idea? I wonder.
We are so tightly knitted that when having a braai or an evening out, we HAVE to invite everyone, otherwise a few feelings get hurt. We have very diverse personalities and it does clash sometimes – okay, I’m lying … TOO MANY times. There is one particular friend whom I disagree with constantly. I feel she is very selfish and very easily upset. This creates unnecessary, unwanted and uncomfortable vibes. We have been friends since Primary School and she means a lot to me, although I got very hurt by her a few times already. And so I can list a lot of friends and a lot of underlying issues, but also greatness, love, support and understanding as well.
I wonder if friendship is supposed to be so much effort. I wonder if I shouldn’t just cut my losses. You know, what do I have to lose? I think a hell of a lot. If I break away, I will not know where to go. I will not know how to start from scratch. I will be alone and gosh, I’m SO very afraid of being alone.
This brings me to the question, is friendship a love / hate relationship? Am I the only one finding it SO very difficult? Can I be the problem?
I think a friendship is definitely a love/hate relationship. True friendships is very hard to find and you should hold on to them!! One problem is that we grow as a person as we get older. We are not necessarily the same person as we were in Primary School and that is probably why you and that one friend clash all the time. Do not let her upset you. Hope you can figure something out. Thank you for sharing.
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